Illustrations by Suzy Gerhart; photo illustrations by Craig Dimond. While speaking to youth about how to prepare for a celestial marriage, President Thomas S. Elder Russell M. When I was serving as bishop in a young single adult ward, I worried about those who approached dating with very little purpose, understanding, or direction. This caused me to wonder if my own children would be any different when their time came. So, how about you? Are you ready to become a dating academy graduate yourself?
Class is in session! Elder Jeffrey R. Can you explain the purposes of dating and the specific dating standards and guidelines set by the Church? The First Presidency reminds us why knowing and understanding these standards are so important. One of the most common ways people learn is by watching others. Dating is no different. In the dating academy, we spend time observing others in dating situations. In our family, we learned many pointers—some to do, others to avoid—by watching dates in progress at restaurants and other settings.
This is about learning from others but not stalking, staring, or even judging. Look for things you like and things you would like to avoid. Go to a variety of places and settings to observe others.
Not every date is the same nor should it be. Watch how the setting affects the experience. Watch how people interact with each other. Can you tell who is with whom? Are they paying attention to each other? In what ways? Are they talking with each other? Do they look like they enjoy being with each other? How can you tell if they are having fun?
Talk with a parent, leader, or good friends and share what you noticed and what you learned. The next time you go out to eat, attend a movie, or go to almost any activity, make an effort to look around and see how other people are interacting. It may surprise you to see how much dating is actually going on! With a little practice, you can become a date-planning champion. And young women, no fair skipping this section!
