My oldest just turned 13, and although the prospect of dating is getting closer every day, this is not a topic with which I have any experience. Honestly, just the idea of my daughter dating makes me a little panicky. If so, e-mail [email protected] or comment on the articles posted at forwardinchrist. I remember when my oldest son went on his first date as a high school freshman. It was hardly the stuff of romantic legend.
I think the date may have ended with an awkward handshake. If only dating could remain this innocent! How much—or how little—do we get involved? From the outset, be very clear about dating parameters. Ask where, when, and what questions. Give firm expectations about rules and curfews, and enforce consequences when rules are broken.
Sorry, I know it will be cringe-worthy and awkward, but your child needs to learn about sex from you, not the Internet or peers. Look at what God says about purity in relationships 1 Corinthians and read Galatians together to remind your teen that Christ lives in him. Discuss the very real consequences of a sexual relationship outside of marriage—everything from STDs to pregnancy—and the emotional and spiritual impacts it has. Although teens have to learn to make their own choices and understand the consequences of their actions, we can help guide them through the dating minefield.
Dads, cherish your wife in front of your daughters. Moms, hold your sons accountable by teaching them to respect you and respect women. Also talk about what is and is not acceptable in a dating relationship.
If your child is uncomfortable or injured in a relationship, teach him to speak up. Are you married to the first person you dated? Keep in mind that dating for our teens is about exploring who they are and what they are looking for in a future spouse. Pray continually. We forget how powerful and effective prayer is. Ask him to help your child remain pure, make wise choices, and stay safe.
