In that question I explained my situation caring for my wife who has a degenerative brain disease and asked what other caregivers did about basically living celibate but still feeling the strong desire for physical intimacy.
I received every expected type of response from you're a sex addict and pervert, go to church, get a hobby, snuggle more and find a friend with benefits. I also had a few ladies tell me they wish I lived closer so we could meet each other. So I have struggled with this almost daily since then.
But I have finally made the decision that I am no good to anyone, either her or myself, if I am totally and constantly depressed or in a terribly foul mood. I would like to have a lady friend who is in the same situation that I am in, who would like a man friend who would understand when she felt like crying and needed to talk, who would like to occasionally have a meal with a man friend, or a movie.
If it progressed into a "friend with benefits" thing I would love that too. I have had zero life for longer than I care to remember now and I need to change that. I can't get away often at this point but sometimes is better than nothing at all. To anyone who will accuse me of using this forum as a dating app, this is the only way I can see to meet someone that is in my same situation. I live in a small town so I can't use a senior app on the computer because I don't want my relatives to ever see it at this point in time.
The last thing I ever want to do is hurt my wife. So here goes, I'm 65 years old. I live close to Peoria, Illinois. If anyone is within a 3 to 4 hour drive one way, that would be close to the maximum distance that I could manage right now. I'm just in tremendous need of female companionship. I was an electrician all my work life.
