Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. I have only ever felt it once in 9 years of dating.
He turned out to be a bit of a nob! I just never feel it. What if I just can't?! Maybe I have been single for so long, it's disappeared. That could happen? I question if I'm settling if I don't feel it. I have gone on a few dates with someone. Appears great. Obviously I don't know yet as it takes time. However, he went in for the kiss. I felt absolutely nothing! No excitment at all.
On the other hand, I have a happy marriage with a very deep connection with my husband so clearly an initial spark is not necessary. What about sexual chemistry. Shouldn't there be a spark then? I 'fall in love' easily, but some people don't often at all. They still can enjoy relationships in their own way. Just the way it goes. Personally I think sexual chemistry is important.
I need to feel attraction and chemistry with someone. Maybe this is where the saying kiss a few frogs to find the prince comes from. But attraction can build. I wasn't instantly attracted to my now ex husband but over the years I would often look at him and think "my husband is gorgeous!
I became more and more attracted to him as I got to know him more. It can be based on context. A person's actions, personality, confidence etc can make them very attractive. I'm not sure I follow - I thought a "spark" was lust.
