Are you afraid of being alone so you rush from one relationship into another? Why does that happen? Opening ourselves to people means becoming vulnerable. Moreover, open to the possibility of rejection. What is that? It is the way we connect. How we bond with other people and it is developed throughout our lives.
Moreover, it is influenced by our experiences and relationships. It is our unconscious relational map and contains our needs, expectations, triggers, wounds, interpretations and values.
Attachment theory is a map to the landscape of love. Research shows that about 50 percent of the population present a secure attachment style. So, it means natural capacity for a balance between being intimate and being independent. It also means more self-esteem, capacity to bounce easier from rejections and less fear of being engulfed or abandoned. About the other half of the population, however, have an insecure attachment.
It means they tend to have more fears of putting themselves out there being intimate or being alone. They also present more problems when in relationships and at the same time. It shows more stress and have fewer skills when trying to resolve them. Amir, , attached. Professional help can provide you the understanding. You need to figure out your own role and triggers in relationships. Then, by changing some patterns and learning certain skills. You can move towards secure attachment and be able to establish healthy connections.
But it is never too late. You can learn it in therapy. The main step is to stop blaming your exes or bad luck and realize that you might be part of the problem.
