With the pressure to use something meaningful for my eighth grade yearbook quote, I chose a phrase that resonated deep within me:. I firmly believed in this. But during the summer before my freshman year in college, I had an experience that rocked my previous inclination. I realized how important labels are when I whole-heartedly fell for a boy.
Maybe it was the fact we seemed to move too fast. Whatever the case was, I became twisted up in my first open relationship as I embarked on my journey to college. Since it was long distance and we were both going to start very different chapters in our lives, we set conditions for the relationship. My open relationship had more rules than that. In fact, being able to see other people was just one of the very long list of expectations we had created.
An open relationship is different than a hookup. That kind of experience is different than the contract of an open relationship. To me it made sense to have this hookup clause in my open relationship. His military career had him in Mississippi, then Texas and finally Arizona. Yet it was still so hard. I felt tied down and not at the same time. Fanelli explained how our hookup culture influences much of the success to an open relationship. The chances of it actually working out can be very slim.
Why muck up the experience? I got other things to do. Many college students are taught not to settle down. We have choices, a seemingly unlimited amount of choices, at the touch of our fingertips. Why settle down when there might be something better out there? My biggest fear came true when he fell for someone else. In turn, I was hurt for a very long time.
I grew from it, though. Isabella Ong is a sophomore television, radio and film major. Her column appears weekly in Pulp. Read more ». Despite likely No. Donating today will help ensure that the paper stays run by its student staff. By Tara Binte Sharil February 6, at am. By Cooper Andrews February 6, at am. By Shivika Gupta February 5, at am. By Mia Jones February 6, at am. By Nate Lechner February 6, at am. By Spencer Howard February 6, at am. By Noah Nussbaum February 5, at pm.
