After the death of my father in , I stop dating. Exampleโฆthe lawyer I had recently broken up with took me out to eat and his idea of a meal was splitting an appetizer no main course, no drink, and definitely no dessert. I healed the parts of my heart that had been broken from past relationships. I learned how to honor ME and to put myself first not in a self absorbed way - but in a healthy way and I stopped being a people pleaser praise the Lord for growth.
Recent attempts at dating included the college professor and renowned scholar who informed me that he needed to have an edible and to play a video game before he could engage in a text conversation with me. In each of these scenarios I asked the men if they desired a companion or a serious relationship. Interestingly, they all stated they wanted a relationship, but their actions later indicated that what they really wanted was a companion or in some casesโฆjust a booty call in between the commercials.
According to Dr. Shante Holley , the difference between companionship vs relationship is this:. Companionship is embedded in relationship, but a relationship is not necessarily embedded in companionship.
A relationship requires someone to be emotional availability. It requires fidelity, vulnerability, accountability, honest, integrity, truthful communication, and an investment of self. A relationship is very high stakes and this is an emotional investment being made. Friendโฆas you navigate these dating streets in midlife I beg you to take into consideration these things:. Learn what makes your soul sing - take yourself on dates, engage in self pleasure, become comfortable with your own company.
Click here and grab your Retired Hot Girl merch today! A Retired Hot Girl is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. I am I have been single longer than I care to admit and my tolerance hS grown lower with each passing year. I recently met a man who shared my faith and who said he wanted a relationship but clearly was hurt and had not healed. I couldn't love him through it.
