There are many different meanings for collars in the bdsm community. Collar of protection. The first step in the process. It signals that the submissive is still free to do as they like but are under the watchful eye and protection of a dominant. It is usually something simple, a thin leather band with a ring for example. Collar of consideration.
The second step. By accepting a collar of consideration a submissive is saying that they are no longer looking for a dominant, and if the dominant finds her worthy she or he may be taken into service more permanently. Think of it as the bdsm equivalent of something in between a promise ring and an engagement ring. This collar is usually of more substantial design than a protection collar. Collar of ownership. This is usually the Last collar to be given.
It has deep meaning in the bdsm community. This is not something given lightly. It is a symbol of the trust and commitment between the dominant and submissive. It is vary much like a wedding band in bdsm. These collars differ quite a bit depending on the tastes of the dominant and submissive. They can be simple or ornate, metal or leather. The important thing is the meaning it has to the dom that gives it and the sub that wears it.
The collar of life. I designed this collar myself and maybe one day will find someone devoted enough to wear it. I will make it by hand. I have some skill as a blacksmith it will be a Damascus steal band with silver and gold inlay. It has no hinge and must be bent around the neck of the submissive. It has an internal catch lock to close and secure it. It cannot be removed without cutting it off, once it is closedโฆ it is permanent. This is my last collar, the last I will ever give.
It is a lifetime commitment to and from the submissive. I have not made it because it must be made to the dimensions of the submissive it is to be given. Collars are more than a symbol they are tools for the dominant as well.
