I respect your privacy and only subscribe you to what you've specifically requested. Unsubscribe at any time. The only person you have to break up with is you and your overactive imagination and feelings. The issue is about you not wanting to let go of your feelings, your obsession, your drama. And then you project the feelings you think you have onto them and assume that they should feel and perceive similarly to you.
You want them to notice you, to see you in the way that you see them. In losing all sense of proportion, you become so consumed by how you feel that you want them to be swept up in all the love you have to give. Living in a dream world feels safer than the rejection you fear in the real world. In choosing men who are aloof and unlikely to be interested, you avoid having to be hurt in the way you fear. Instead, you build sandcastles in the sky in your mind and then feel rejected by your own daydreams.
These men become the inspiration for our latest round of feelings. They contribute a little at the beginning, and then we just take it from there. Any misery you are feeling is, for the most part, your own creation. In fact, the object of your affections may have no clue about your interest.
And then blame it on someone else. Sometimes, a person can mislead us to believe that they feel more than they do. And then we refuse to opt out. The only way that these situations end is when you end them. Stop creating drama and then wondering why you are miserable. I know — I used to do it myself. Take things at face value. Working with a therapist or counsellor not only gives you professional support but also helps you to get grounded in the present.
Take it a step , a day, at a time. By bringing you back to the real world and gradually rejecting the fantasy, you will gain perspective. You will heal. Ready to reclaim yourself from the cycle of people pleasing and any patterns that reinforce feelings of low self-worth?
