Even though I'm personally someone who isn't interested in dating unless the mutual intention is that it will lead to courtship that's a word that means a whole lot more than hanging out with a gentleman; being with a chivalrous man should be happening regardless , I totally get that not everyone has that same desire. Case in point—one of my favorite people on the entire planet has told me, pretty much since her adolescence she's 39 now , that marriage is something she's absolutely not interested in or a fan of.
Still, she consistently has a dating life that rivals mine and at least 80 percent of the people that I know. For years now, she has told me about her dating dynamics and how they very rarely lead to an exclusive relationship.
Interestingly enough, at the same time, she continues to see of the same people, for months—if not years—at a time. When I ask what we should call those types of dating situations, it's crickets on her end. Clearly, she's not going the traditional route. But still, if you're setting aside time, times a month, to hang out and possibly more with someone else, for months on end, that's not nothing. It is indeed… something. Until my girl hits me up with a cute phrase to help define it, I've decided to call that type of relationship "seriously casually dating".
If you just read those last couple of paragraphs and that sounds exactly like what you want to do, before you make "serious casual dating" an official thing between you and someone else or several different people , make sure that you know what you are potentially, both emotionally as well as physically, getting yourself into.
Perspective is everything. This is definitely the case when it comes to dating. I've shared before that I once had a birthday dinner with a guy.
