I even followed their guidelines for extras and deluxe services. When I started working alone, that guidance was gone. I suddenly had to put a price tag on my sexual skills, my appearance, and β it seemed to me at the time β my sense of self-worth. Setting up as an independent sex worker is a lot like getting started in any other sort of small business. Sex work takes that feeling of vulnerability to a whole new level.
Our hang-ups about money get in the way too. But I already struggled to ask for money, whether it was a raise at my day job or sending an overdue notice to a freelance client. And I felt very much on my own. Unfortunately or fortunately!
Before I start talking about this, I just want to acknowledge that not everyone gets to set their price however they like. This is simply my own experience. Capitalism is a nasty system - it tricks us into thinking that high-earning jobs are more worthy than minimum wage.
Whereas often, the people who work hardest or perform the most important tasks are paid less. For example, someone who collects garbage for a living is needed more than someone who designs luxury handbags, even though the latter is more lucrative.
I was low-priced compared to some, so I figured I must be less conventionally attractive, less skilled, and doing less work. But as I started to get to know my peers, I saw diversity at every level. High-priced escorts come in all ages, shapes, and personalities. In one study , researchers found that people who blind-tasted wines were unable to tell the difference between cheap and expensive varieties.
